“To be a young woman in our culture means that you exist, from an alarmingly young age, for the appreciation of others. Therefore, your every feature is fair game for public appraisal. It means you become accustomed to a certain kind of gaze: a cold survey of your merits and deficits. It means you tense up when you walk past a group, any group, of men, because you know they’re going to say something, it may or may not be positive, and either way it’s not going to leave you feeling good about yourself.”